The end of Life with Dignity

Dying Smoking Candle

Talking to your Loved One about Dying

The topic and subjectivity of dying are as old as humanity itself. Most people feel still anxious to speak freely about it. But why is this? Why is this subject still taboo and undeserving of open and honest dialogue. Death is inevitable to everyone and everything that is alive?

The answer, of course, is fear: 

But how do we begin this difficult conversation with our loved one or with our friend who is dying? How then can we make the leap from feeling fearful to feeling okay? How do we talk freely about our feelings and of the impending doom that dangles above us while in their presence? 

The answer is simple: 

 Once you commit to being fully present with the dying person you will find that conversation isn’t immediate or forced, but rather like a free flowing river that somehow directs your soul and heart to the next action and word that is exactly perfect for the situation.

There is no need to read accounts of others, or to find instructions on how to open your heart to others in this time of need; we all do this instinctively as human beings. 

Being present—fully present—

To others is not a gift bestowed to only a select few, because we all share it and this is its purpose—to share ourselves fully with another human being who need it most. That’s not all, though. Once we sit quietly with the dying person and give them our full attention and love through opening our heart, we need to be still and listen.

Yes, listen,

But first, listen with your heart and with your ears. It may not come easy at first, but once you practice listening you will be surprised of the gifts bestowed upon you that originate from the dying person.

“We have been so pleased with you and the care you have shown us, our family, and my parents. You have been so helpful and genuine, and have always been there in our time of need. We had some very good and qualified caregivers, and I thank you for that. Thank you for working with us, so hard, to get CalPERS up and going and correcting all the mistakes they have made over the years. You guys have gone through a lot with us. Thank you again, for your kindness, professionalism, and care!” – Donna B.
“ActiveCare watched over my stepfather while I was at work. The caregiver was punctual and knew how to react to his moods. She did light housework, bathed and fed him, and made sure he took his medicine. Great personality. Very trustworthy. Best price for the exceptional care she gave him.” – Bettina
“We are grateful for your services and would like to offer a positive reference on behalf of our family.” – Deloris